5 Easy Steps on Writing Your Own Spell

If you’re going to write a spell, it should be specific to you and every individual. Even if following a traditional spell, it should be tailored to your specific needs to be the most effective for you. Understanding the basics of spell construction will enable you to formulate your own specific, effective spells for any purpose you choose.

Figure out the goal or intent of the working. What is it you wish to accomplish? Are you looking for prosperity? Hoping to get a better job? Trying to bring love into your life? What is the specific aim of the spell? Whatever it may be, make sure you’re clear on what it is you want — “I will get that promotion at work!”
Determine what material components you’ll need to achieve the goal. Will the working require herbs, candles, stones? Try to think outside the box when you’re composing a spell — remember that magic relies heavily on symbolism. There’s nothing wrong with using unusual ingredients in a working — Hot Wheels cars, chess pieces, bits of hardware, sunglasses and even old DVDs are all fair game.
Decide if timing is important. In some traditions, moon phase is crucial, while in others it’s not significant. Generally, positive magic, or workings that draw things to you, is performed during the waxing moon. Negative or destructive magic is done during the waning phase. It may be that you feel a certainday of the week is best for the working, or even a certain hour of the day. Don’t feel obligated to drown yourself in the details, though. If you’re a person who feels confident doing magic on the fly without worrying about timing, then go for it.
Figure out what wording or incantation — if any — will be verbalized during the working. Are you going to chant something formal and powerful, calling upon the gods for assistance? Will you simply mutter a poetic couplet under your breath? Or is it the sort of working where you can simply ponder the Universe in silence?
Put all of the above together into a workable form, and then, in the immortal words of the Nike commercial, Just Do It.

Tips:

Despite this being a very bare-bones and simple way of looking at spell construction, it does work effectively. You may wish to keep a magical journal or make notes in your Book of Shadows during the spell construction phase, and then keep track of results as they begin to manifest.
If a working hasn’t begun to manifest within a few weeks — some traditions say within 28 days, a lunar month — you may want to stop and revisit the working. Figure out what variables may need to be changed.
The Universe has a quirky sense of humor, so make sure anything you cast a spell for is worded correctly. In other words, be careful what you wish for, because you just might get it!
Remember that magic is a tool and a skill set, but some common sense should prevail as well. You can cast all day to get yourself a job, but your chances of success are greatly reduced if you haven’t pounded the pavement and sent out copies of your resume!

How to Overcome Your Neediness

A lot of us go through life feeling needy of affection, approval and attention from others. This causes us to focus on the “outside” while disconnecting with our inner space of being. Neediness always arises from lack based thinking and a self-critical mindset. People who are self-critical are usually always seeking approval and affection outside themselves and hence end up becoming “needy” in their behavior. Also, a lack based mindset causes people to think that they need to “cling” to someone because they feel that life will not bring in new/better relationship if they let go of this one. Neediness is a highly toxic mindset and it immediately makes your point of attraction to be rooted in lack. Overcoming the attitude of neediness is all about letting go of viewing life from the lens of lack and developing the mindset of self-love through self-alignment.

Do you feel like they’re pulling away from you? People tend to pull away when they feel smothered. To regain the balance in a relationship, you have to be willing to give the other person some space.

Your Relationship is Energy

Think of a relationship as energy. If a couple is equal in their attention and affection, there is balance and harmony in their relationship. But if one person gives more than the other person is willing to give, the balance shifts. Then one person becomes distant and the other person becomes needy and desperate for the affection they once had. It can become a vicious cycle and one that has the ability to intensify. The result is a serious relationship crash and burn.

Space and Room to Breathe

Being clingy in a relationship won’t get you the closeness you want. In fact, it will push the object of your affection away. But if you give them space and room to breathe, you’ll draw them closer. It may sound counterproductive, but in order to hold onto something in a genuine way, you need to be willing to let it go.

There’s a big difference between “I want you because I need you,” and “I need you because I want you.” If you want someone desperately because you need them to make you feel whole or complete, that’s a lot of pressure to put on a person and a relationship. It scares people and makes them run and hide no matter how much they liked you in the beginning. When you need someone because you genuinely want to be with them, that’s an entirely different feeling. When you both want to be with one another, the feeling is mutual and the energy between you is equal.

You’re Needy if…

1. You Call/Text Excessively: What’s excessive? Calling or texting someone several times before they return your call or text is excessive. Don’t assume they’re ignoring you. They could be driving, in the shower or busy at work. They’ll call or text you back. If you call or text them too many times, when they finally get back to you it won’t be pleasant.

2. You Need to be With Them Every Second: Don’t mistake their desire to spend time with friends, family or pets as a lack of affection for you. You don’t have to spend every second of the day together. If you did, you wouldn’t have much to talk about. They’re busy and their life doesn’t revolve around you. Try being busy yourself so you’re not obsessing over not being together. Savoring your alone time keeps you from pushing them away.

3. You’re Constantly Jealous: Being in a relationship with someone you don’t trust makes you miserable. Also, being with someone who doesn’t trust you makes you miserable. Unless you’ve had the exclusivity talk, assume they’re dating other people, and you should be too. If you’re in a committed relationship, you should be able to trust your partner and not feel constantly jealous. Even if they’re speaking to the opposite sex, you shouldn’t worry that they’re cheating on you. Jealousy leads to anxiety and anxiety leads to neediness. You’re pushing them away.

Be Independent

We all want to feel needed and wanted, but there is a limit. Independence is an attractive quality, and you don’t seem independent if you constantly need to be around your partner. Neediness isn’t attractive. It pushes peoples away from you and makes you a lonely person. If you have a tendency to be needy, I suggest you do the opposite of what your needy instincts tell you to do. For example, if you feel like texting them over and over before they’ve responded to your first text, stop yourself. Find something else to do.

Which Candle Should You Use?

images (46) One of the simplest forms of magick is candle burning. It is simple because it employ’s little ritual and few ceremonial artefacts. The items required can be purchased in many shops and it’s ritual’s can be practiced in the comfort of your own home.

The candles you use for any type of magick should be virginal (new and unused). Candle’s which have already been used may have picked up vibrations which will distract from your purposes.

The size and shape of the candles you use is unimportant, in fact the simpler the better. What is important is the colour of the candle you use. Brief guidelines are shown below:

WHITE CANDLE: Represents Purity, Spirituality, and Peace. In some cultures it is the color of Death and Mourning.

RED CANDLE: Represents Health, Energy, Strength, Sexual Virility,Courage,and the Masculine Principle in Nature.

PINK CANDLE: Represents Romantic Love, Affection, Friendship

YELLOW CANDLE: Represents Intellect, The Powers of the Creative Imagination, Memory, Communication, and Mental Agility.

GREEN CANDLE: Represents Abundance, Fertility, Good Luck, and Harmony.

BLUE CANDLE: Represents Healing, Truth, Inspiration, High Wisdom, Occult Power, Psychic Protection, Understanding, Good Health, and the Feminine Principle in Nature.

a1ba4e0679daa08b85333968048263a9 PURPLE CANDLE: Represents Success in Financial Affairs, Psychic Ability, Idealism, Spiritual Powers.

GOLD CANDLE: Attracts Positive Influences, and it’s connected with Justice and Career Matters.

SILVER CANDLE: Represents Clairvoyance, Astral Energies and Channeling. Also the faculty of long term memory and remembering past lives.

BLACK CANDLE: Can be used for grounding negative Energies and also can be used for protection.

BROWN CANDLE: Used for feeling of Self Esteem.

ORANGE CANDLE: Represents Attraction, Stimulation, Control, Personal Strength, Authority, Luck, Ambition, Property deals.

MAGENTA CANDLE: Energizes rituals where immediate action and high level of power or spiritual healing is needed quickly. Quick changes, Exorcism, Spiritual Healing.

LAVENDER CANDLE: Represents Intuition, Dignity and Spiritual Shields.

COPPER CANDLE: Represents Financial goals, Business, Career Strategy and Professional Growth.

INDIGO CANDLE: Represents Color of inertia, stops situations or people, use in rituals that require a deep meditation state.

ROYAL BLUE CANDLE: Represents Promotes laughter, happiness and loyalty, use whenever an influence needs to be increased.

LIGHT BLUE CANDLE: Represents Spiritual color, helpful in devotional or inspirational meditations, brings peace and tranquility to the home, employ where a situation must be synthesized.

candles EMERALD GREEN CANDLE: Represents the Attraction of Love, Social delights and Fertility.

DARK GREEN CANDLE: Represents the color of ambition, greed and jealousy, counteracts these influences in a ritual.

GREY CANDLE: Represents Neutral color, useful when pondering complex issues during meditation, in magic this often sparks confusion, it also negates or neutralizes a negative influence.

7 Cohabitation Tips to Live Happily Together

Cohabitation is a trend that has become increasingly popular among modern couples, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t a big step in a relationship. It is often said that cohabitation is the prelude to marriage, and that does make it a serious commitment.

Cohabitation can be exciting, but it also comes with its share of pitfalls. Use these 7 tips, and you’ll see that life can be so much better!

Define This Next Step

What does cohabitation mean to you? Is it a test to see if you can live happily together once you get married? Or, is living together enough of a commitment for you both? If this is a stepping stone or the end of the line for your commitment, you need to know before you move in together.

Don’t Lament the Disappearance of Your “Perfect” Partner

What happened to that guy with the clean apartment who always shaved his face and wore clean clothes? Who’s this burping, farting, and toenail-clipping-at-the-table guy who wears the same underwear two days in a row? OMG, he pees with the door open and never replaces the toilet paper! Now that you live together, you’re going to see the real, human side of your partner, just like they’re going to see the real, human side of you. They’re going to feel your stubbly legs, see you without makeup and with unkempt hair. They’re going to know you poop and get your period. Shocked? Get over it!

Make it Both Your Spaces

Your home should be a reflection of both your tastes. That can be hard to do if one partner gives up their home to move into their partner’s home. You don’t need two coffee tables, two couches, or two beds! The rule of thumb should be to keep the item that’s in the best shape. This is also going to require some compromise. You may have to sell something you love or at least put it in storage because your new home doesn’t have the space for it. That’s okay. Your partner will be giving up some of the things they love too.

Share the Chores

If you both work, there is no reason why you can’t share the household chores. Make a chore chart and stick to it. Decide how often the house gets cleaned. If one of you neglects your chores, the other is going to feel resentment and resentment is not part of happy cohabitation.

There is a fear common among anti-living-together people (most likely your mom or grandmother), that any woman who lives with a man she isn’t married to turns into a 1950s housewife. Suddenly she is cooking and cleaning and giving him sex for free! Unless you actually want to do all the cooking and cleaning, you don’t have to worry about magically turning into that woman. And as far as the free sex things goes, it might be a shock to those same anti-living-together people to learn that women enjoy sex just as much as men do. Sex isn’t a commodity, so you’re not giving anything away for free.

Have Your Own Hobbies

Just because you’ve taken the next step in your commitment and chosen cohabitation, it doesn’t mean you have to give up the hobbies and activities you enjoy. Keep doing what you love, outside of the house. Whether it’s a fitness class, community garden, or writing at Starbucks, stick to it.

Have Your Alone Time

You don’t have to be together 24/7. You each need your alone time. Go out with your friends and leave your partner at home. Send your partner out with their friends so you can enjoy a night of peace and quiet on your own. Give yourselves the opportunity to miss each other and have separate adventures so you can tell each other about them later.

Share the Bills

If you both earn money, you both pay the bills. If one partner earns more than the other, they can pay for more things, but each of you should be contributing financially to the lifestyle you lead and the home you keep. Like chores, if one person gets stuck paying for everything, resentment builds.

So how do you make your cohabitation work?

8 Signs You Aren’t Ready For A Relationship

I know what you’re thinking right now. “Of course, I’m ready for a relationship. It’s what I’ve been waiting so long for! I just need to know how I can get one started!”

Well, I’m certainly not arguing that you want a real relationship. I’m asking if you’re ready for a real relationship. That one’s tough to answer, because it entails really looking at yourself and your beliefs, attitudes and behaviors in a real, open, and honest way. And that’s never easy.

If you’re wondering if you’re ready for the next new thing, but aren’t totally sure, here are some clues that you might just have a little more renovation to do before you get back in the game.

1. You’re Still In Love With Your Ex

Rationalize all you want. Make every excuse. Tell yourself and anyone who will listen that you’re done, through, finito! But if your everyday world is booby-trapped with physical reminders and emotional landmines that consistently blow up and send you reeling into either fond or angry reminiscences about the one that got away–like the makeup she left behind in the medicine cabinet that you haven’t gotten around to tossing, or the T-shirt of his you still sleep in “because it’s really comfortable”–then chances are, you’re not over your ex.

What You Can Do About It

Some people who have lost love, especially those who feel badly burned by a romance soured, take the “scorched earth” approach and banish every scrap of evidence—physical and emotional—of their former flames. There’s certainly something to be said for the cathartic element of clearing away failed love in one fell swoop, however, by pretending your former partner never existed, you are likely refusing to acknowledge the truth of what went wrong in the first place.

The opposite extreme are those of us who just can’t let go of anything that reminds us of our exes. This often happens when lovers hope, openly or secretly, that the object of their former affection may be coming back. Again, this type of rationalizing and denial is only holding you back from moving ahead, because it keeps you stuck in the “emotionally unavailable” zone.

There’s an old saying that goes, “if you love something, set it free,” but what many don’t understand is that if you can “let things go” in a healthy way by honoring and integrating what you’ve learned into the present and moving ahead, rather than denying or ignoring the past—you will set yourself free as well. If it’s truly “meant to be,” that lost love may return, and if not, you’ll be ready to embrace something new.

2. You Think Being With Anybody is Better than Being with Nobody

Many people feel the need to be in a relationship because, plain and simple, they’re afraid of being alone. Some use being in a relationship to validate their existence. Others have abandonment issues, and are constantly trying to fill an emotional void, that, like a metaphoric black hole, is not something that can ever be filled. Whatever the motivation, the core of most discomfort about being trapped in life at a “table for one” has to do with lack of self-esteem.

What You Can Do About It

Your mental house not only needs to be cleaned, but you also need to shore up structural damage. The first step you should take is making an honest assessment of broken behavior that has neither served you in the past, nor will further your cause in the future. Learning to differentiate between “being alone” and “being lonely” is a process that can take time, and may require professional assistance.

If you look into the mirror and don’t like what you see, or feel incomplete unless you’re in a relationship, a consulting a romance advisor to help shed light on problems that are staring you in the face that you still don’t notice might be the perfect place to get the relationship ball rolling in a more productive direction.

3. Everyone You Know is In a Relationship, So You Should Be, Too…

Peer pressure is a powerful thing, and falling prey to it can lead to poor decision-making, even as we get older. When all your peers seem to be paired up, and you’re left standing out in the cold, the impulse is often to hook up with the next even semi-sentient creature that comes along and project “happily ever after” on them, no matter how ill-suited a partner they may be.

What You Can Do About It

If friends and family are making you uncomfortable about being alone, or constantly trying to fix you up with all the wrong people, take a moment to step back from the “madding crowd,” and reflect on what it is you really want from your next long-term romance. As difficult as it may be to see the people you know contentedly coupled when you’re not, do your best to be happy for them, but stop comparing what they have with what you don’t–because it’s a waste of time and energy that would be better spent investing in yourself.

Of course, feedback from trusted friends can be a positive resource, but what will be of more value to you will be learning to trust your own instincts and appreciate that your needs are not necessarily the same as other people’s. When you have a clear idea of who you are and what you want, the universe has a way of bringing it into your life.

4. You’re a Romance Junkie

You love being in love. The thrill of the chase fills you with ecstasy. The first rush of passion is your favorite natural high. But when reality sets in, you begin to feel trapped. Suddenly, there are cracks in the façade, and your new love doesn’t seem as perfect as they did at first blush. Little by little, their flaws and idiosyncrasies begin to annoy you. Even things that drew you to that person in the first place begin to seem less than appealing. Your dissatisfaction grows, and you feel chafed by the confines of boredom as more and more, familiarity breeds contempt. So… you either A) break up with the person you once thought was perfect, or B) start seeing someone else behind their back.

What You Can Do About It

Grow up. Sound harsh? That may be true, but if you’ve got a revolving door on your love life because you love “the idea of being in love” more than the actual process of loving someone and having them love you back, you’re not ready for a mature relationship. Sure, it’s fun to be the kid in the candy store, but we all know stuffing your face with gobs of sweets is not something that’s going to end well, nor will happiness be found in grabbing at every shiny new thing that comes your way.

If you’re young and not ready to settle down, there’s nothing wrong with that, as long as you understand it yourself, and make it clear from the beginning to the people you’re dating that you’re not ready for the long haul yet.

5. You Think Having the Right Partner Will Solve All Your Problems

Mr. Right. Prince Charming. Betty Crocker. Whatever your idea of the perfect partner is, there’s no such thing, nor is anyone going to sweep into your life and magically erase your every current woe. Long story short: If you believe that being part of a couple is the answer to all of life’s conundrums, you haven’t got your head screwed on straight.

What You Can Do About It

The most mutually beneficial love partnerships require a 50/50 share of the commitment, so it’s unrealistic to hope that someone else is going to put in 110 percent while you sit back and enjoy the profits. Love may be more important than money, but it is a resource to be invested wisely. Unless you’re a total gold digger, you’re going to have to be willing and able to hold up your fair share of the bargain, and in order to do that, you’ll have to build up some equity, as in self-worth.

Think about it. By letting someone else solve all your problems for you, you’re actually abdicating control of your own destiny. As much as a new romance may be a temporary fix for what ails you, in the long run, you might just wind up resenting a partner who has, in effect, bought you, and hating yourself for letting it happen. Is that what you really want? Likely not. When you’re not happy with your life, you’re the one who needs to change it for the better, preferably before inviting anyone else along for what may prove to be a bumpy ride for the both of you.

8 Signs Your Relationship Has Hit the Comfort Zone

Getting comfortable with your guy is a sure sign that you’re more secure about how he feels about you and signifies you’ve become good friends as well as lovers. But it’s possible to be too comfortable, which could be dangerous to your relationship. Wondering if you’re crossing the line? Here are 8 signs you might be.

Pajama Dates

If your idea of a fun date on a Friday night is sitting in front of the TV with your love in your pajamas, you’d be right! But if this is your idea of a fun date, every date night, you are too comfortable in your relationship. Staying in can be cozy and romantic, but don’t forget to take your partner out once in a while. Trying new and exciting things together strengthens your bond.

Feeling Secure and Stable

Stability may sound like a good thing in your relationships, but according to professor and author, Dan Ariely, there is such a thing as an illusion of stability. Let’s be honest—we all have limits when it comes to certain things, so imagine your relationship as being completely stable could one day cost you your relationship. It is actually better to think of your relationship as a constant work in progress. This will help keep you on our toes, illicit curiosity, give you the incentive to be creative with your love language and remind you that love is not a prize, but a gift that can be taken away if you are undeserving.

The Loss of Romance

Early on in a relationship, men and women are usually equally happy. But as time goes on and couples become more and more comfortable with each other, a woman’s happiness begins to plunder while a man’s happiness remains pretty much the same. Researchers suggest that a lack of romance could have something to do with it, and here’s why: Women are the nurturers in most relationships—they care for their partner’s health, set appointments and organize many of the things they and their partner do together. In return, most women have one very important request, and that is to be nurtured in return, which in her language means a little romance. When relationships get comfortable, men tend to dial down the romance. Instead, they should continue to date their partners, no matter how long they’ve been together.

Sex Is No Longer a Priority

In comfortable romantic relationships, sex gets de-prioritized. If you’ve been with someone long enough, you may think you’ve done it every way possible, but the truth is, you haven’t. It’s a good thing women rarely cheat, because not having their sexual needs fulfilled is probably justification enough. Your life is full of priorities and responsibilities, and sex with your partner should be one of them. Schedule sex if you have to! Having regular sex will make you want it more. Eventually, it will be something that just happens again.

Poor Table Manners

Do you have a partner who eats loudly or with their mouth open? Do they slurp and chomp to their heart’s content? Poor table manners can be a real turnoff, but they’re something people in comfortable relationships are often guilty of. Burping and passing gas at the table are also not acceptable behaviors. Pretend you’re having dinner in a fancy restaurant and act as if you were surrounded by other diners.

Letting Go

This isn’t about body-shaming! Your partner should love you just the way you are. However, if when you met you were running marathons and taking pride in your personal appearance, but now you barely shower and have gained a ridiculous amount of weight due to just not caring, you’re too comfortable in your relationship. You and your love should be happy and healthy for yourselves and each other. Good health is always a worthy long-term goal, no matter how comfortable you are.

Not Giving Each Other Gifts

Every birthday and anniversary is important, no matter how long you’ve been together. So make these days special. Get your partner something they’d like, that perfectly captures the essence of your relationship and that’s creative. Thoughtful gifts are the best gifts and giving them will benefit your relationship in the long run.

Poor Sleep Habits

Fidgeting in bed, passing gas, snoring or clipping your toenails? These are all inconsiderate acts people in comfortable relationships engage in.Wondering what it’s doing to your partner? It’s definitely ruining the quality of their sleep. And a lack of sleep makes a person grumpy and causes them to be more selfish in relationships. Take steps to improve your sleep hygiene and curb your snoring. Your partner will be happier and healthier for it.

Love Symbols

There are as many symbolic expressions of love as there are people to love.

Love symbols profoundly assist us in describing the often elusive emotion that consumes us when considering love itself. When we think of love, we can easily become overwhelmed by its vastness. Love symbols help us capture a small portion of what love means so that as we grow, our comprehension of love may also grow.

Rather than define love, love symbols take us on a journey of expression. In identifying these various symbols, we are able to see more clearly into the varying depths of the emotion. When we focus on a particular symbol, we then gain deeper knowledge and are able to express ourselves in the arena of love more clearly.

Symbols transmit consciousness and meaning and when it comes to love there are an array of symbols that help us remember: it’s time to express that love to our romantic partner.

Cupid

The personification of desire and courtship, Cupid is the Roman winged god depicted with his bow and quiver of arrows. Cupid is known to the Greeks as Eros, born out of the chaos (void) alongside his sister Aphrodite. In the Roman version he is born from the union of Mars and Venus. Cupid was often shown blindfolded in art to symbolize love’s blindness. The notion that a pierce from Cupid’s arrow will render the victim hopelessly in love comes from the myth of Cupid and Psyche: When ordered by Venus to make her rival, Psyche, fall in love with the vilest thing in the world, Cupid is accidently scratched by his own golden arrow and falls hopelessly in love with Psyche visiting her each night while she slept.

Diamonds

Diamonds are worn to symbolize eternal love. The Greeks believed diamonds were tears of the gods and the Romans believed they were splinters of fallen stars. The first diamond engagement ring can be traced to the 15th century, when the Archduke Maximilian of Austria gave a diamond ring to Mary of Burgundy in 1477. In the 19th century, Napoleon gave his wife Marie Louise an exquisite diamond necklace as a token of his appreciation upon the birth of their son. The most publicized romantic diamond gift, a 33-carat diamond worth $9 million, was given to Elizabeth Taylor by Richard Burton.

Heart Shape

Nothing says “I love you” more simply than the heart shape. But where did this stylized image originate? No one really knows for sure. However, the earliest usage of the image appears to have been stamped on minted coins by the Cyrenes in the 7th century B.C. The image was actually of the heart shaped seedpod of the now extinct silphium plant, which was used as a seasoning and was reputed to be a birth control agent. The theory is that the heart shape was first associated with sex, and later became associated with love. The heart shape later proliferated with the popularity of the exchange of Valentines in the Victorian era in England.

Tulips

As the 11th wedding anniversary flower, a tulip’s velvety black center represents a lover’s heart, darkened by the heat of passion. A Turkish legend adds further meaning to the red tulip’s symbolism. The legend goes that a prince named Farhad fell in love with a maiden named Shirin. When Farhad learned that Shirin had been killed, he was overcome with sorrow and in desperation rode his horse over the edge of a cliff. The red tulip sprung from each drop of his blood, giving the red tulip the meaning “perfect love.”

Roses

Emma Goldman said, “I’d rather have roses on my table than diamonds on my neck.” Since time immemorial, the rose has been the most appreciated symbol of divine and romantic love, beauty and perfection. Each color variety adds further meaning as a romantic symbol: yellow signifies a joyful love; red represents passion and immortal love; and pink symbolizes first love.

Doves

The cooing and bowing courting ritual of doves inspire lovers. Doves have long been considered a symbol of faithful and eternal love because they mate for life. And if one dove is separated from its mate through death, the other will not mate again. Depictions of two doves together symbolize everlasting love.

Maple Leaves

To the Chinese and Japanese cultures, the maple leaf is the insignia of lovers. Like the syrup derived from the tree, the maple leaves serve as love symbols because they express the sweetness and wonder of love in daily life. North American settlers used to place the maple leaves at the foot of their beds to encourage sexual pleasure and a peaceful slumber.

Claddagh Symbol

The two tiny hands holding a crowned heart motif called the Claddagh symbol has been fashioned into rings for centuries and given as a token of love. The folklore of the first Claddagh ring is exceptionally romantic. A fisherman named Richard Joyce worked in the Moorish lands, far from his native Galway in Ireland. The legend goes that he was kidnapped by pirates and forced to work for a goldsmith. As a result, he became a skilled craftsman. During his slavery, he never forgot his true love, Margaret. He crafted a special ring to illustrate his love and loyalty to her. When Joyce was freed many years later, he returned to Galway, Ireland, and reunited with Margaret, giving her the ring.

Apples

A symbol of sexual ecstasy, fertility, wisdom, abundance and love, the apple holds esoteric meaning for its mystical and magical properties. At the wedding of Zeus and Hera, Gaia supplied apples to Hera to signify lasting love and union. Dionysus, the Greek god of wine, wooed Aphrodite by offering her apples and won her love. Split apart, the apple resembles the image of vulva, signifying beauty and feminine love.

Celtic Love Knot

The interlacing design of the Celtic Love Knot, having no beginning and no end, stands for the continuity of everlasting love and the intertwining and binding of two souls. Christianity adapted the Celtic symbolism incorporating the designs into high crosses and included them in religious manuscripts such as the Book of Kells. Although the ancient Celts did not record the meanings behind the designs, scholars speculate that the symbols represented basic principles of life, mankind and spirituality. Three knots laced together symbolized the tri-unity of lovers, God, man and woman.

Kokopelli

The Native American “Pied Piper”, Kokopelli is a trickster and fertility symbol associated with courtship. He is depicted with a plumed headdress, exaggerated genitalia and is walking while blowing his flute. He often plays a part in the Hopi rituals relating to matrimony and is sometimes depicted with his consort, Kokopelmana. As a custom, the love-flute was used by a man to attract a maiden. When the two were married, the man would destroy his flute, never to play again.

What You Need to Know About Voodoo Love Spells

Voodoo is a set of diverse belief systems and practices filtered through different parts of the world. Popular culture, portrayed for generations through TV, the cinema, and music, leaves one to think that Voodoo is a violent, scary practice filled with sorcerers who use “voodoo dolls” and zombies. But the ancient religion has a much lighter side. The so-called “Voodoo dolls” are not used by most of priests and priestesses. It is the Voodoo love spells that can produce amazing results.

Voodoo History

The Voodoo religion originated in ancient Africa and traveled with the slave population throughout the world. It was brought to North America by way of the Caribbean. Heavily influenced by Catholic rituals and Native American Indian nature traditions, modern forms of Voodoo, including Santeria, are still widely practiced in Haiti and New Orleans.

Most modern-day priests and priestesses (also known as hougans and mambos) are fairly isolated from their peers (even their most devout followers). Like all forms of magic, Voodoo is powerful. And those that practice it should protect and preserve their soul evolution.

Its followers use Voodoo mainly for individual empowerment and positive manifestation. It is community-oriented and has a large component involving rituals and spells.

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Voodoo has many variations in different places. It also varies depending on the hougan or mambo’s specific practice within a community. Even today, there is still a dark side to Voodoo. Santeria is most identified as a negative or black magic practice. For many years, it was banned in South America and used only by small cults. There are some Voodoo practitioners who abuse their power or use it to increase their wealth. Black magic can be seductive.

Most Voodoo spells and ceremonies involve the use of music, chanting, oils, candles, and dancing. Naming wishes or people or writing on parchment paper are developed from the ancients writing on banana leaves. Voodoo rituals often also use visualization and meditation techniques, as well as natural and homemade artifacts.

Most artifacts are made from human hair, twigs, scraps of clothes or a blanket, grass, etc. Voodoo dolls can even be used as a surrogate for a person. In white magic, they are never supposed to be used to harm someone.

About Love Spells

No matter what spells that you are thinking of using, consider the risks. Particularly, a Voodoo love spell is supposed to bind your soul with another person. So if you cast a love spell and you’ve put it on the wrong man or woman, there may be no turning back.

Love spells can be about seduction, or about getting a lover to come back after they leave. The most powerful magic results when positive energy transforms a transient relationship to a forever one. Voodoo love spells can have the desired results. Just keep in mind that if you are bringing someone back, bending of someone else’s will could be involved.

Voodoo can be white or black magic. White magic is supposed to be based on positive energy. Black magic has darker purposes. No one should ever practice black magic.

2 Powerful Voodoo Love Spells

#1 Become a Love Magnet — Attraction Spell

If you are uncertain about casting a love spell on someone else, you may want to stir the love energy within yourself. By becoming a true love magnet, you are not practicing a spell on anyone else.

This spell takes a little time to work (30 to 45 days). All you need is a lock of your hair, two teaspoons of brown sugar, some parchment paper, and a tightly sealed plastic bag.

Cut a small amount of your hair and place it in the plastic bag along with the sugar. On the parchment paper (any color heavy stock paper will do), write four wishes. For instance, you could write…”I want to be in a happy marriage,” or “I want to be loved by a good woman.”

Fold the paper and place it in the bag.

On a night of a full moon, take your bag outside and face North. Repeat the wishes while holding the bag. Meditate on happiness and bringing the love energy into your life.

Now bury the bag on the North corner of the home where you live. The sweet of the sugar and the power of the meditation should be working on you as you go through the day. Some practitioners suggest you repeat the four wishes every morning when you get up. This should attract love into your life.

#2 Bring Him/Her Back with Candles — Reuniting Spell

Over the years, happy relationships have been destroyed when an old lover uses Voodoo. If he/she has moved on and is currently with someone else, you might want reconsider this spell.

Worse yet, if two people are using a Voodoo love spell on the same person, a tragedy could result. There are some risks involved, so be sure of what you are doing. Clear out any dark purposes or fear that you may have.

You will need some parchment paper. Use heavy stock paper of any color. You will also need a purple candle and a red candle.

Fold the paper in half. Now open it up. Write the name of the lover you are “calling back” to you on the left half of the paper four times. Now write your name four times on the other half of the paper.

Light the purple candle. Seal his/her name with four drops of the purple wax. Make sure the wax is on his/her name.

Fold the paper back together so that both names touch and are sealed together with the purple wax.

Now put the folded paper in a bowl. Cover the paper with water. You only need enough water to cover the folded paper. Now put a red candle in the bowl on top of the water covered paper.

Light the red candle. The spell is supposed to melt you two together, or seal your souls.

This brings your lover back to you with an open heart. The Voodoo love spell is supposed to take effect quickly. Within 3 to 4 days, they should be back in your arms.

Voodoo is most famous for bringing back the lover who has rejected you. Please keep in mind that if you perform this spell, it should be done with the best of intentions for everyone.

The Louisiana Voodoo Continues

After slaves started a massive revolt in 1791 on the island of St. Domingue, where present-day Haiti is, the assortment of beliefs and practices brought over from different parts of Western Africa coalesced into New Orleans voodoo. Both white and black residents of St. Domingue, also colonized by the French, fled to New Orleans which was attractive to them for its similar French heritage. Residents of St. Domingue already followed developed voodoo practices (in fact, an intense, well-attended voodoo ceremony inspired the slave revolt), and the refugees brought these traditions with them.

The word “voodoo” is derived from the African word voudun, which means “deity” in Yoruba or “insight” in Fon (Bodin 1990).

Are you familiar with New Orleans knows the legend of Voodoo Queen Marie Laveau? While Laveau’s own legacy is formidable, she was part of a much larger practice of spiritual folkways with roots that can be traced back to ancestral tribal rituals of the West Africans, predominantly the Fon people of Benin, who came to these shores via the slave trade.(1) The sheer number of enslaved Fon, who were also brought to the French Caribbean colonies, assured that many of their West African traditions survived the journey to the Americas.

One reason for the continued strength of West African tradition in Louisiana has to do with the predominance of French and Catholic influences on the slaveholders there. While in more northern regions of the American South where slavery was practiced it was common to mingle slaves from many places of origin, and also to break up families and sell off members to far-flung plantations, in Louisiana, slave families stood a much better chance of remaining at least somewhat intact, thus preserving their cultural practices. Another aspect of West African culture that heavily influenced the longevity and power of Louisiana Voodoo was the veneration of both elders and ancestors. A rich tradition of oral history ensured that voodoo practices were passed down from generation to generation.

The Gris-Gris Melting Pot

Voodoo as we know it today evolved as the slaves intermingled with French, Spanish, and Creole peoples of Louisiana. As the cultures merged in what has been called the “creolization” of the region, traditions from all of these cultures were incorporated into Louisiana Voodoo.(2) The practice of making and wearing charms and amulets for protection and healing–or with the purpose of causing harm to one’s enemies–merged tribal folk medicines with aspects of the Catholic church, such as the ceremonial use of holy water, candles, incense, and even crucifixes.

At the onset of the Haitian Revolution (1791-1894), New Orleans was flooded with escaped slaves, Creoles and “petit blancs” (whites of the merchant class) fleeing the conflict.(3) By 1809, the influx of refugees nearly doubled the city’s population, which served to strengthen Voodoo traditions even further.

Voodoo queens and kings, such as Marie Laveau and Doctor John (a.k.a. Bayou John or Prince John) held great sway over not only their own communities, but the entire citizenry of New Orleans. Women of African and Creole descent became some of the most dynamic influencers of their time. Their powers were both revered and feared in every strata of New Orleans society, from the poorest slaves to the wealthiest landowners and merchants.

The Tradition Continues

The ritual ceremonies of the Voodoo queens could draw crowds that numbered in the thousands. The most famous rite, which transpires each year on St. John’s Eve, enjoys continued popularity even now, and is considered the most important holy day in the Voodoo calendar.

June 23 is the eve of celebration before to the Feast Day of Saint John the Baptist. John the Baptist, who was said to have been born sixth months before Jesus, has a feast day that is one of only a few to commemorate the birth, rather than the death, of the saint being honored. The date also closely coincides with the June solstice, or Midsummer’s Eve, and as with Christmas Eve, is more closely tied in date to the pagan rather than the Christian calendar.

Ritual Voodoo baptisms have been performed annually on the banks of Bayou St. John on this night ever since Marie Laveau’s time, and each year on the Island of Salvation Botanica, a St. John’s Eve Head-Washing Ceremony is held in her honor. During the “lave tète,” participants clothed in white attire and wearing white headscarves are “baptized” in the Voodoo faith. They are also asked to bring baptismal offerings to honor Marie that are thought to ensure the promise of a healthy and prosperous year to come, and can range from anything from food to hair ornaments to flowers, candles, rosaries, and gris-gris bags.

Another Louisiana tradition that happens at this time of year is the making of “St. John the Baptist Water.” Custom holds that on the day of the feast, June 24, believers should fill a bottle with river water while reciting the Lord’s prayer (New Orleans natives swear by water from Bayou St. John), which is said to have the power to keep undesirable parties from crossing your threshold.

For the charm to work, the bottle must be laid on its side with the top pointing toward the front door. When unwanted visitors–like the law, your landlord or your nasty ex–show up, you’re to call aloud on the spirits of St. John and Marie Laveau to intercede on your behalf. As you make the incantation, you must roll the bottle with your foot in the direction of the door. Once your unbidden guests depart, roll it back to where it was (again using your foot). This bottle is said to hold its potency for an entire year, and need only be replenished at the following Saint John’s Eve feast day.

Voodoo has been working its magic for hundreds of years. Although it may have fallen out of favor for some adherents with the advent of the 20th Century, like a living thing, the faith continued to evolve and adapt to the changing cultural zeitgeist of the Deep South. Many of Voodoo’s traditions have resurfaced and regained popularity, once again finding an honored and special place in the spiritual fabric of Louisiana.

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