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8 Signs Your Relationship Has Hit the Comfort Zone

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imagesGetting comfortable with your guy is a sure sign that you’re more secure about how he feels about you and signifies you’ve become good friends as well as lovers. But it’s possible to be too comfortable, which could be dangerous to your relationship. Wondering if you’re crossing the line? Here are 8 signs you might be.

 Pajama Dates

If your idea of a fun date on a Friday night is sitting in front of the TV with your love in your pajamas, you’d be right! But if this is your idea of a fun date, every date night, you are too comfortable in your relationship. Staying in can be cozy and romantic, but don’t forget to take your partner out once in a while. Trying new and exciting things together strengthens your bond.

Feeling Secure and Stable

Stability may sound like a good thing in your relationships, but according to professor and author, Dan Ariely, there is such a thing as an illusion of stability. Let’s be honest—we all have limits when it comes to certain things, so imagine your relationship as being completely stable could one day cost you your relationship. It is actually better to think of your relationship as a constant work in progress. This will help keep you on our toes, illicit curiosity, give you the incentive to be creative with your love language and remind you that love is not a prize, but a gift that can be taken away if you are undeserving.

The Loss of Romance

Lack-of-RomanceEarly on in a relationship, men and women are usually equally happy. But as time goes on and couples become more and more comfortable with each other, a woman’s happiness begins to plunder while a man’s happiness remains pretty much the same. Researchers suggest that a lack of romance could have something to do with it, and here’s why: Women are the nurturers in most relationships—they care for their partner’s health, set appointments and organize many of the things they and their partner do together. In return, most women have one very important request, and that is to be nurtured in return, which in her language means a little romance. When relationships get comfortable, men tend to dial down the romance. Instead, they should continue to date their partners, no matter how long they’ve been together.

Sex Is No Longer a Priority

In comfortable romantic relationships, sex gets de-prioritized.  If you’ve been with someone long enough, you may think you’ve done it every way possible, but the truth is, you haven’t. It’s a good thing women rarely cheat, because not having their sexual needs fulfilled is probably justification enough. Your life is full of priorities and responsibilities, and sex with your partner should be one of them. Schedule sex if you have to! Having regular sex will make you want it more. Eventually, it will be something that just happens again.

downloadPoor Table Manners

Do you have a partner who eats loudly or with their mouth open? Do they slurp and chomp to their heart’s content? Poor table manners can be a real turnoff, but they’re something people in comfortable relationships are often guilty of. Burping and passing gas at the table are also not acceptable behaviors. Pretend you’re having dinner in a fancy restaurant and act as if you were surrounded by other diners.

 

Letting Go

This isn’t about body-shaming! Your partner should love you just the way you are. However, if when you met you were running marathons and taking pride in your personal appearance, but now you barely shower and have gained a ridiculous amount of weight due to just not caring, you’re too comfortable in your relationship. You and your love should be happy and healthy for yourselves and each other. Good health is always a worthy long-term goal, no matter how comfortable you are.

Not Giving Each Other Gifts

Every birthday and anniversary is important, no matter how long you’ve been together. So make these days special. Get your partner something they’d like, that perfectly captures the essence of your relationship and that’s creative. Thoughtful gifts are the best gifts and giving them will benefit your relationship in the long run.

man-snoring-in-bed-350Poor Sleep Habits

Fidgeting in bed, passing gas, snoring or clipping your toenails? These are all inconsiderate acts people in comfortable relationships engage in.Wondering what it’s doing to your partner? It’s definitely ruining the quality of their sleep. And a lack of sleep makes a person grumpy and causes them to be more selfish in relationships. Take steps to improve your sleep hygiene and curb your snoring. Your partner will be happier and healthier for it.

Love Symbols

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There are as many symbolic expressions of love as there are people to love.

Love symbols profoundly assist us in describing the often elusive emotion that consumes us when considering love itself. When we think of love, we can easily become overwhelmed by its vastness. Love symbols help us capture a small portion of what love means so that as we grow, our comprehension of love may also grow.

Rather than define love, love symbols take us on a journey of expression. In identifying these various symbols, we are able to see more clearly into the varying depths of the emotion. When we focus on a particular symbol, we then gain deeper knowledge and are able to express ourselves in the arena of love more clearly.

Symbols transmit consciousness and meaning and when it comes to love there are an array of symbols that help us remember: it’s time to express that love to our romantic partner.

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The personification of desire and courtship, Cupid is the Roman winged god depicted with his bow and quiver of arrows. Cupid is known to the Greeks as Eros, born out of the chaos (void) alongside his sister Aphrodite. In the Roman version he is born from the union of Mars and Venus. Cupid was often shown blindfolded in art to symbolize love’s blindness. The notion that a pierce from Cupid’s arrow will render the victim hopelessly in love comes from the myth of Cupid and Psyche: When ordered by Venus to make her rival, Psyche, fall in love with the vilest thing in the world, Cupid is accidently scratched by his own golden arrow and falls hopelessly in love with Psyche visiting her each night while she slept.

images (3)Diamonds

Diamonds are worn to symbolize eternal love. The Greeks believed diamonds were tears of the gods and the Romans believed they were splinters of fallen stars. The first diamond engagement ring can be traced to the 15th century, when the Archduke Maximilian of Austria gave a diamond ring to Mary of Burgundy in 1477. In the 19th century, Napoleon gave his wife Marie Louise an exquisite diamond necklace as a token of his appreciation upon the birth of their son. The most publicized romantic diamond gift, a 33-carat diamond worth $9 million, was given to Elizabeth Taylor by Richard Burton.

hipster-pink-red-romantic-design-elements-love-wedding-set-50310381Heart Shape

Nothing says “I love you” more simply than the heart shape. But where did this stylized image originate? No one really knows for sure. However, the earliest usage of the image appears to have been stamped on minted coins by the Cyrenes in the 7th century B.C. The image was actually of the heart shaped seedpod of the now extinct silphium plant, which was used as a seasoning and was reputed to be a birth control agent. The theory is that the heart shape was first associated with sex, and later became associated with love. The heart shape later proliferated with the popularity of the exchange of Valentines in the Victorian era in England.

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As the 11th wedding anniversary flower, a tulip’s velvety black center represents a lover’s heart, darkened by the heat of passion. A Turkish legend adds further meaning to the red tulip’s symbolism. The legend goes that a prince named Farhad fell in love with a maiden named Shirin. When Farhad learned that Shirin had been killed, he was overcome with sorrow and in desperation rode his horse over the edge of a cliff. The red tulip sprung from each drop of his blood, giving the red tulip the meaning “perfect love.”

images (4)Roses

Emma Goldman said, “I’d rather have roses on my table than diamonds on my neck.” Since time immemorial, the rose has been the most appreciated symbol of divine and romantic love, beauty and perfection. Each color variety adds further meaning as a romantic symbol: yellow signifies a joyful love; red represents passion and immortal love; and pink symbolizes first love.

download (1)Doves

The cooing and bowing courting ritual of doves inspire lovers. Doves have long been considered a symbol of faithful and eternal love because they mate for life. And if one dove is separated from its mate through death, the other will not mate again. Depictions of two doves together symbolize everlasting love.

images (5)Maple Leaves

To the Chinese and Japanese cultures, the maple leaf is the insignia of lovers. Like the syrup derived from the tree, the maple leaves serve as love symbols because they express the sweetness and wonder of love in daily life. North American settlers used to place the maple leaves at the foot of their beds to encourage sexual pleasure and a peaceful slumber.

images (6)Claddagh Symbol

The two tiny hands holding a crowned heart motif called the Claddagh symbol has been fashioned into rings for centuries and given as a token of love. The folklore of the first Claddagh ring is exceptionally romantic. A fisherman named Richard Joyce worked in the Moorish lands, far from his native Galway in Ireland. The legend goes that he was kidnapped by pirates and forced to work for a goldsmith. As a result, he became a skilled craftsman. During his slavery, he never forgot his true love, Margaret. He crafted a special ring to illustrate his love and loyalty to her. When Joyce was freed many years later, he returned to Galway, Ireland, and reunited with Margaret, giving her the ring.

download (2)Apples

A symbol of sexual ecstasy, fertility, wisdom, abundance and love, the apple holds esoteric meaning for its mystical and magical properties. At the wedding of Zeus and Hera, Gaia supplied apples to Hera to signify lasting love and union. Dionysus, the Greek god of wine, wooed Aphrodite by offering her apples and won her love. Split apart, the apple resembles the image of vulva, signifying beauty and feminine love.

downloadCeltic Love Knot

The interlacing design of the Celtic Love Knot, having no beginning and no end, stands for the continuity of everlasting love and the intertwining and binding of two souls. Christianity adapted the Celtic symbolism incorporating the designs into high crosses and included them in religious manuscripts such as the Book of Kells. Although the ancient Celts did not record the meanings behind the designs, scholars speculate that the symbols represented basic principles of life, mankind and spirituality. Three knots laced together symbolized the tri-unity of lovers, God, man and woman.

images (7)Kokopelli

The Native American “Pied Piper”, Kokopelli is a trickster and fertility symbol associated with courtship. He is depicted with a plumed headdress, exaggerated genitalia and is walking while blowing his flute. He often plays a part in the Hopi rituals relating to matrimony and is sometimes depicted with his consort, Kokopelmana. As a custom, the love-flute was used by a man to attract a maiden. When the two were married, the man would destroy his flute, never to play again.

What You Need to Know About Voodoo Love Spells

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Voodoo is a set of diverse belief systems and practices filtered through different parts of the world.  Popular culture, portrayed for generations through TV, the cinema, and music, leaves one to think that Voodoo is a violent, scary practice filled with sorcerers who use “voodoo dolls” and zombies. But the ancient religion has a much lighter side. The so-called “Voodoo dolls” are not used by most of priests and priestesses. It is the Voodoo love spells that can produce amazing results.

maxresdefault (1)Voodoo History

The Voodoo religion originated in ancient Africa and traveled with the slave population throughout the world. It was brought to North America by way of the Caribbean. Heavily influenced by Catholic rituals and Native American Indian nature traditions, modern forms of Voodoo, including Santeria, are still widely practiced in Haiti and New Orleans.

Most modern-day priests and priestesses (also known as hougans and mambos) are fairly isolated from their peers (even their most devout followers). Like all forms of magic, Voodoo is powerful. And those that practice it should protect and preserve their soul evolution.

Its followers use Voodoo mainly for individual empowerment and positive manifestation. It is community-oriented and has a large component involving rituals and spells.

Image source: Moi of Ra on Flickr

Voodoo has many variations in different places. It also varies depending on the hougan or mambo’s specific practice within a community. Even today, there is still a dark side to Voodoo. Santeria is most identified as a negative or black magic practice. For many years, it was banned in South America and used only by small cults.  There are some Voodoo practitioners who abuse their power or use it to increase their wealth. Black magic can be seductive.

Most Voodoo spells and ceremonies involve the use of music, chanting, oils, candles, and dancing. Naming wishes or people or writing on parchment paper are developed from the ancients writing on banana leaves. Voodoo rituals often also use visualization and meditation techniques, as well as natural and homemade artifacts.

Most artifacts are made from human hair, twigs, scraps of clothes or a blanket, grass, etc. Voodoo dolls can even be used as a surrogate for a person. In white magic, they are never supposed to be used to harm someone.

voodoo-doll_163About Love Spells

No matter what spells that you are thinking of using, consider the risks. Particularly, a Voodoo love spell is supposed to bind your soul with another person. So if you cast a love spell and you’ve put it on the wrong man or woman, there may be no turning back.

Love spells can be about seduction, or about getting a lover to come back after they leave. The most powerful magic results when positive energy transforms a transient relationship to a forever one.  Voodoo love spells can have the desired results. Just keep in mind that if you are bringing someone back, bending of someone else’s will could be involved.

Voodoo can be white or black magic. White magic is supposed to be based on positive energy. Black magic has darker purposes. No one should ever practice black magic.

2 Powerful Voodoo Love Spells

#1 Become a Love Magnet — Attraction Spell

If you are uncertain about casting a love spell on someone else, you may want to stir the love energy within yourself. By becoming a true love magnet, you are not practicing a spell on anyone else.

This spell takes a little time to work (30 to 45 days). All you need is a lock of your hair, two teaspoons of brown sugar, some parchment paper, and a tightly sealed plastic bag.

Cut a small amount of your hair and place it in the plastic bag along with the sugar. On the parchment paper (any color heavy stock paper will do), write four wishes. For instance, you could write…”I want to be in a happy marriage,” or “I want to be loved by a good woman.”

Fold the paper and place it in the bag.

On a night of a full moon, take your bag outside and face North. Repeat the wishes while holding the bag. Meditate on happiness and bringing the love energy into your life.

Now bury the bag on the North corner of the home where you live. The sweet of the sugar and the power of the meditation should be working on you as you go through the day. Some practitioners suggest you repeat the four wishes every morning when you get up. This should attract love into your life.

#2 Bring Him/Her Back with Candles — Reuniting Spell

reunited-SINGLE-DATING-DIVAOver the years, happy relationships have been destroyed when an old lover uses Voodoo. If he/she has moved on and is currently with someone else, you might want reconsider this spell.

Worse yet, if two people are using a Voodoo love spell on the same person, a tragedy could result. There are some risks involved, so be sure of what you are doing. Clear out any dark purposes or fear that you may have.

You will need some parchment paper. Use heavy stock paper of any color. You will also need a purple candle and a red candle.

Fold the paper in half. Now open it up. Write the name of the lover you are “calling back” to you on the left half of the paper four times. Now write your name four times on the other half of the paper.

Light the purple candle. Seal his/her name with four drops of the purple wax. Make sure the wax is on his/her name.

Fold the paper back together so that both names touch and are sealed together with the purple wax.

images (19)Now put the folded paper in a bowl. Cover the paper with water. You only need enough water to cover the folded paper. Now put a red candle in the bowl on top of the water covered paper.

Light the red candle. The spell is supposed to melt you two together, or seal your souls.

This brings your lover back to you with an open heart. The Voodoo love spell is supposed to take effect quickly. Within 3 to 4 days, they should be back in your arms.

Voodoo is most famous for bringing back the lover who has rejected you. Please keep in mind that if you perform this spell, it should be done with the best of intentions for everyone.

The Louisiana Voodoo Continues

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After slaves started a massive revolt in 1791 on the island of St. Domingue, where present-day Haiti is, the assortment of beliefs and practices brought over from different parts of Western Africa coalesced into New Orleans voodoo. Both white and black residents of St. Domingue, also colonized by the French, fled to New Orleans which was attractive to them for its similar French heritage. Residents of St. Domingue already followed developed voodoo practices (in fact, an intense, well-attended voodoo ceremony inspired the slave revolt), and the refugees brought these traditions with them.

The word “voodoo” is derived from the African word voudun, which means “deity” in Yoruba or “insight” in Fon (Bodin 1990).

images (7)Are you familiar with New Orleans knows the legend of Voodoo Queen Marie Laveau? While Laveau’s own legacy is formidable, she was part of a much larger practice of spiritual folkways with roots that can be traced back to ancestral tribal rituals of the West Africans, predominantly the Fon people of Benin, who came to these shores via the slave trade.(1) The sheer number of enslaved Fon, who were also brought to the French Caribbean colonies, assured that many of their West African traditions survived the journey to the Americas.

One reason for the continued strength of West African tradition in Louisiana has to do with the predominance of French and Catholic influences on the slaveholders there.  While in more northern regions of the American South where slavery was practiced it was common to mingle slaves from many places of origin, and also to break up families and sell off members to far-flung plantations, in Louisiana, slave families stood a much better chance of remaining at least somewhat intact, thus preserving their cultural practices. Another aspect of West African culture that heavily influenced the longevity and power of Louisiana Voodoo was the veneration of both elders and ancestors. A rich tradition of oral history ensured that voodoo practices were passed down from generation to generation.

The Gris-Gris Melting Pot

1405042139496502-voodoo-spellsVoodoo as we know it today evolved as the slaves intermingled with French, Spanish, and Creole peoples of Louisiana. As the cultures merged in what has been called the “creolization” of the region, traditions from all of these cultures were incorporated into Louisiana Voodoo.(2) The practice of making and wearing charms and amulets for protection and healing–or with the purpose of causing harm to one’s enemies–merged tribal folk medicines with aspects of the Catholic church, such as the ceremonial use of holy water, candles, incense, and even crucifixes.

At the onset of the Haitian Revolution (1791-1894), New Orleans was flooded with escaped slaves, Creoles and “petit blancs” (whites of the merchant class) fleeing the conflict.(3) By 1809, the influx of refugees nearly doubled the city’s population, which served to strengthen Voodoo traditions even further.

Voodoo queens and kings, such as Marie Laveau and Doctor John (a.k.a. Bayou John or Prince John) held great sway over not only their own communities, but the entire citizenry of New Orleans. Women of African and Creole descent became some of the most dynamic influencers of their time. Their powers were both revered and feared in every strata of New Orleans society, from the poorest slaves to the wealthiest landowners and merchants.

The Tradition Continues

The ritual ceremonies of the Voodoo queens could draw crowds that numbered in the thousands. The most famous rite, which transpires each year on St. John’s Eve, enjoys continued popularity even now, and is considered the most important holy day in the Voodoo calendar.

New_Orleans_Historic_Voodoo_Museum-New_Orleans-LA-d67ef70736a846e2b6bac200932bdd09_cJune 23 is the eve of celebration before to the Feast Day of Saint John the Baptist. John the Baptist, who was said to have been born sixth months before Jesus, has a feast day that is one of only a few to commemorate the birth, rather than the death, of the saint being honored. The date also closely coincides with the June solstice, or Midsummer’s Eve, and as with Christmas Eve, is more closely tied in date to the pagan rather than the Christian calendar.

Ritual Voodoo baptisms have been performed annually on the banks of Bayou St. John on this night ever since Marie Laveau’s time, and each year on the Island of Salvation Botanica, a St. John’s Eve Head-Washing Ceremony is held in her honor. During the “lave tète,” participants clothed in white attire and wearing white headscarves are “baptized” in the Voodoo faith. They are also asked to bring baptismal offerings to honor Marie that are thought to ensure the promise of a healthy and prosperous year to come, and can range from anything from food to hair ornaments to flowers, candles, rosaries, and gris-gris bags.

Another Louisiana tradition that happens at this time of year is the making of “St. John the Baptist Water.” Custom holds that on the day of the feast, June 24, believers should fill a bottle with river water while reciting the Lord’s prayer (New Orleans natives swear by water from Bayou St. John), which is said to have the power to keep undesirable parties from crossing your threshold.

For the charm to work, the bottle must be laid on its side with the top pointing toward the front door. When unwanted visitors–like the law, your landlord or your nasty ex–show up, you’re to call aloud on the spirits of St. John and Marie Laveau to intercede on your behalf. As you make the incantation, you must roll the bottle with your foot in the direction of the door. Once your unbidden guests depart, roll it back to where it was (again using your foot). This bottle is said to hold its potency for an entire year, and need only be replenished at the following Saint John’s Eve feast day.

Voodoo has been working its magic for hundreds of years. Although it may have fallen out of favor for some adherents with the advent of the 20th Century, like a living thing, the faith continued to evolve and adapt to the changing cultural zeitgeist of the Deep South. Many of Voodoo’s traditions have resurfaced and regained popularity, once again finding an honored and special place in the spiritual fabric of Louisiana.

How to Stop Dating the Wrong Person

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Lifestyle-Signs-of-a-Bad-RelationshipWomen get into bad relationships over and over because they don’t learn from their mistakes. The wonderful thing about dating is that we attract what we need to work on in ourselves. A woman who needs to learn to love herself is a magnet for men who for a variety of reasons are unable or unwilling to give. When a woman recognizes what the wrong man is highlighting for her – perhaps that she needs to take better care of herself, set better limits, be more assertive, or become better able to entertain herself – she can end the relationship and get to work on growing and developing in ways that will make her happier with herself and thus less susceptible to repeating her dating mistakes.

You Think You Can “Make Him a Better Man”

However you picture yourself in this partnership–romantic heroine, artistic muse, a savior of lost souls–you’re entering into such a relationship based on the belief that there’s something wrong or lacking in your lover. Your plan is to fix him, reform him, or shape him into the man he’s truly meant to be. (In this “reverse-Pygmalion” scenario, you’ve cast yourself as Professor Higgins, and your lover as Eliza Doolittle.) But unless your man is onboard from the get-go with your makeover scheme, you’re setting yourself and the relationship up for failure.

It’s true, some men do turn to a lover with hopes of self-improvement, but for the most part, guys don’t want to be thought of merely as malleable lumps of clay for a woman to mold to her whims. And it’s hard to blame them. Having the need to make a better man of him implies the belief that you’re better than him to begin with. If the shoe were on the other foot, wouldn’t you resent someone who thought you “needed fixing?”

What Can You Do?

Helping someone realize his or her true potential may be an admirable aspiration, but if you really want to guide someone along this path, you might want to take it out of the context of your personal relationships and apply those talents and instincts elsewhere. Volunteer your time at an adult education center. Become a tutor. Find a way to channel your instinct to do good where it will be truly needed. Start looking for a man you can think of as a partner, rather than a project, and you’re much more likely to find long-term happiness.

5-Common-Signs-Of-A-Bad-RelYou’re Repeating History With An Aim to Change It

Did you grow up in an atmosphere of abuse or neglect? Was your father cold or overly critical? Did your parents divorce, only you were certain they could have and should have worked things out? Was your mother constantly trying to please, but always falling short, not through lack of effort on her part, but because the man she was married to had unrealistic expectations?

Growing up with these kinds of role models often instills in women a need to recreate the disappointing environments in which they grew up in order to make things right.

But unfortunately, by attempting to heal a hurt that happened in the past, these women only recreate it in the present. Re-living a set of circumstances is no guarantee that you will be any better equipped to achieve success than your parents, especially in what is often a no-win situation. Cold, neglectful, abusive men are not going to become warm, forthcoming, and kind. It’s not in their nature.

What Can You Do?

Acknowledge your past. Understand where you came from and how you came to be the person you are. Then forgive and let it go. Yes, it’s easier said than done, but rather than trying to fix something broken that you had absolutely no control over, try to focus instead on building something strong and healthy, in which both partners have an equal say.

You Secretly Believe You Don’t Deserve to Be Happy

Everywhere you look you see other women who are living productive lives. They’re married to wonderful men, they have the kids they always wanted, and they’re living their dreams. You, on the other hand, are either stuck in a dead-end relationship, or are alone…again.

But your lack of a fulfilling love life isn’t something that surprises you, because you believe that any man who would really make a decent husband or boyfriend can do better than you. When you do date, it’s usually men that others might consider losers, but that’s because you either think it’s the best you can do, or that you’ve done something in your past that you think makes you undesirable or unworthy of true love.

What Can You Do?

The short answer is to get some counseling to discover the source of your lack of self-esteem, and begin to heal it. Loving and being loved isn’t an automatic given in anyone’s life, but thinking of yourself as undeserving is something that, with help, you can likely overcome, and loving yourself is the first step in being able to love and be loved by someone wonderful.

You’re “Getting Even” With Someone

Dating on the rebound can land you in all kinds of complications, and your romantic radar can take a major hit, especially if you’re the one that’s been dumped. All too often, in an effort to show an ex what they’re missing out on, women plunge into unhealthy relationships that are much easier to get into than get out of. However, “I’ll show him!” is not a healthy rationale for starting any subsequent relationship.

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When a relationship ends, in many ways, it’s like a death. Give yourself time to mourn the loss. Give yourself space. If someone dumped you, you can either waste your time plotting to either get revenge or get him back, or you can try to learn from your experience. By forgiving your ex, forgiving yourself, and letting go, you’re actually making yourself a better candidate for the next love that comes along.

You’re In Denial

What do you mean my husband/boyfriend/lover isn’t good enough for me? Okay, so he’s cheated on me a few times, and he can’t hold down a job. Maybe he drinks a little too much, and he’s hit me once or twice, but he’s under so much stress, he really couldn’t help it… Really, he’s such a good man!

Are your friends, family and co-workers constantly concerned over your well-being, and either hint that something in your relationship is not as it should be, or just come straight out and tell you that your partner is bad news? You might rationalize that they’re just jealous of you, or that they simply don’t understand your situation, but if you find yourself repeatedly having to explain his bad behavior, it’s likely that there’s at least some truth to what they’re saying. Men who cheat, beat, or otherwise abuse a woman are not good men at all, and no amount of wishful thinking on your part is going to make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear.

article-2570237-1BEA3F9000000578-548_306x423What Can You Do?

In all honesty, this is a tough one. If one person tells you your man isn’t up to par, you should certainly reserve judgment, but if there’s a resounding chorus of concern from everyone who loves and cares for you, it’s time to wake up and smell the coffee. Perhaps in addition to denial, you’re stuck in one of the other scenarios above: You’re trying to heal an old hurt, or just don’t think you’re worthy of a wonderful man. Whatever the case, you must learn to put your emotional and physical health and safety first. Once you admit the truth, if you’re not able to get clear of an abusive relationship, you will in a much better frame of mind to ask for the help you need to extricate yourself.

If any of these situations sound like your current relationship, it’s probably time to get out. Don’t settle for a bad relationship with the wrong person–know that you’re worth more, and that only by getting yourself out of your current situation can you open yourself up to all of life’s possibilities.

4 Powerful Questions to Ask Your Psychic About Love

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Many sticky notes with questions like who, what, when, where, how and why, and a question mark, all posted on an office noteboard to represent confusion in communincationWhen talking to a psychic about love, how you phrase the question is extremely important. Asking open-ended questions can result in yes and no answers. You want the live psychic to go into more detail with their answers so you may learn more about yourself and the correct path for finding your love destination. The questions you ask are as important as the responses you receive.

Here are four powerful questions to ask your psychic about love.

1. What is my path to a happy and successful relationship? images (6)

Remember that often people ask if or when they will get married. Again, this only provides them with a yes or no answer, or information that is too brief to do anything with. Asking in this way closes the answer and doesn’t allow for possibility of change. The future is not predetermined and your choice of path will decide the outcome. If you ask an online psychic to show you the path to a successful relationship, you will have a much more detailed answer to finding the correct way for you.

2. What should I know about my romantic life?

This question allows the psychic to open the door to seeing what is ahead for you. Remember: be weary of asking questions that begin with how or when, as these won’t show you the entire picture available to you.

3. How can I truly follow my heart?

This question allows a psychic to give answers that are open-ended, so that you may choose your path instead of asking a clairvoyant to make decisions for you. Psychics are there to guide you. They cannot make decisions for you. You must make your decisions based on what is best for you. A psychic can help you find the way that is best for your personal journey.

4. How can I attract the right person into my life? 

93798-90984You can ask questions such as this, but don’t ask if someone is the one. Psychics cannot read another person without him or her being present. They can guide you so that you can make the best decisions for yourself, but they cannot tell you the will of another. That is why the question, “How can I attract?” is better received by psychics for offering good advice. Psychics can read you and, based on your reading, tell you the best way to attract your future.

 

When you’re looking for real insight, speaking to a psychic and receiving a reading can provide you very powerful information into how you can fulfill your desires and dreams. Make sure to ask questions in a way that will give you the most information to make a positive difference in your decision-making.

Are you prepared with your questions?

How to Make Him Want You with Voodoo Love Spells

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Do you love someone but he doesn’t love you back? Is he just not into you? Do you believe in love spells? Find out how to make him want you with the 4 Simple Voodoo Love Spells below. Nothing interests a person in witchcraft like the promise of love. And finding free easy love spells is your first step to adding some romantic magic to your life. There is no need to wonder if love spells work.

The History of Voodoo

The ancient art of Voodoo originated as shamanistic traditions brought from Africa to the New World during the slave trade and combined with the ritualism of the faithful in the Western Hemisphere. Voodoo is the belief that ritual enactment of a desire will produce that desire.

The rituals of Voodoo almost always involve attracting and keeping a lover. In centuries past, when information flow was much slower, a Voodoo priest or priestess was entrusted as the keeper of these rituals, but in the information age, one can become a practitioner of the simpler of these ritualistic ceremonies.

The love spell is the most common type of Voodoo practiced. Voodoo love spells are quite effective in aiding a seduction, getting a lover to return to you or in strengthening the devotion of a man you are currently with. The bad reputation of Voodoo is due to its success in seduction; it has received envy and loathing over the years, largely from those whose lovers have abandoned them under the influence of a Voodoo love spell.

The Risks Involved with Voodoo

Voodoo is not without its risks. If you cast a Voodoo love spell on a man, realize that your soul could become bound to his. Do not use one of these spells on a man for whom you lust after but do not want to be with forever. These spells bind you; they are an oath to ethereal energy patterns (aka spirits) that you will produce amazing love energy for the universe if only these spirits will alter the energy of the material plane in your favor. The Voodoo priestess lives in isolation specifically because she can have any man with the wave of her hand, but knowing this, she hides from all men to preserve her eternal soul.

Four Simple Voodoo Love Spells To Cast

1168502-bigthumbnailThe Candlewax Cover, a spell to attract him to you

In more primitive times this spell involved writing on banana leaves but paper will suffice. Write his name on the left half of the paper. Write it four times – four is the power number of Voodoo. Now write your name five times on the other half of the paper. Light a purple candle and allow four drops of wax to hit his side of the paper. Fold the paper over so that your names touch and are sealed together with the wax. Purple is the color red and blue – the red of human blood binding with the eternity of the blue sky. Now place the paper flat in a shallow disposable pan and pour water just high enough in it to cover the paper. Now place a red candle on top of this immersed paper and light it. When all of the wax has melted into the water, he will melt into your arms.

Anointing Voodoo Oil, a spell to make him want you

Take some household cooking oil. Fill the plastic cap from the bottle with some oil. Put one of your eyelashes in the oil overnight. Insist that he put his index finger in the oil for a minute. Tell him it is a test to see how steady his pulse is, as this will appeal to his machismo. Hold his wrist like you are taking his pulse. Lift his hand and quickly raise his finger to your lips. Apply the oil on his finger to your lips as you would your lipstick. Now kiss him, closed lips. He will begin to see you as his soul mate and want to kiss you more and more.

His Name As Your Number, a spell to keep him close

How many letters are in his first name? How many in his last name? That is your lucky number. Write it on the inside of your underwear. Every Pair. In ceremony after ceremony we see the devotees of Voodoo taking the number of steps in their magic number, ritualistically, over and over in a sort of hypnotic dance. Pulling in the energy of the structure of his name allows you to control that energy. Having the number tattooed on you is not recommended, as the binding of eternal souls may have more consequences for you than you can even perceive on this material plane.

images (17)The Voodoo Doll, a spell designed to bring back a lover

This is the most advanced of the Four Simple Voodoo Love Spells. It is also the most powerful. You must get some of your man’s clothing and his hair in constructing the doll. Making the human form out of one of his unwashed tee shirts is especially powerful. Glue his hair to the top of the doll’s head and put small swatches of his clothes corresponding with where he wears them in order to make your small sculpture even more powerful. A successful doll will control his physical form in the world from entering into any physical activity with another person. If you can retain a speck of lint from his bellybutton to glue on as the facial features of this doll, it has been shown to be one element of the modern world that improves on the power of ancient Voodoo. The stereotype of sticking pins in a Voodoo doll to cause pain is inaccurate. A woman pins her Voodoo doll to her bed to make her man come back to the bed to satisfy, love and comfort her. Pin your Voodoo doll where his pillow goes next to yours. When you lay down for bed, talk to the doll as you would talk to him. Your departed man will psychically hear you and enjoy your desire no matter how great the distance between you two. Nothing will inspire him to change his mind more than the pillow talk you share with the doll made in his image.