You may have been eying a particular person in your life for some time and you wish you could find a way of making them become enamored with you. Although, it sounds like a movie, there are many risks involved with manifesting this person to be your next great love or dearest friend. It doesn’t matter if you already know this person or have merely glimpsed them from across a café. The risks will still be there; however, it may be a bit lower if you know them because you may already have an idea if they would be open to this manifestation of your dream.
Reasons to avoid manifestation
The biggest concern is that you can never truly know ahead of time if this person will be a good influence in your life. Regardless if you know them personally, or if they are currently a stranger to you, you only know a portion of this person’s personality and motivators. Someone can be incredibly polite socially, but could carry toxic baggage that would make having an intimate relationship with them near impossible.
- People need free will: There are many people who subscribe to the Law of Attraction in spirituality that will say manifesting a person in your life is a direct violation of their free will. Other facets in the spiritual community may claim that manifestation will only attract the version of them that desires to be with you as well. Therefore, you may want this person as your lover, and they don’t have romantic feelings towards you, in this case they will come into your life, but will only stay in the friend zone.
- Lack of harmony: You can never be sure if a person you attract into your life will be a good fit for your lifestyle. With manifestation you may get along fabulously, or you may endure an endless series of fighting. In extreme cases you may end up with toxic relationship that you could struggle to end.
Alternatives
Manifestation a particular individual is risky, but it should stop you from pursuing your ideal relationship. Instead of focus on “them,” manifest the “it.”
- Identify desirable traits: Focus on what makes a person a good fit for you and your lifestyle rather than coveting a particular individual. Write a list about what aspects you want in a friend or lover and then prioritize these traits. When the “right” person enters your life, you will know they are healthy for you because they embody the skills, goals, and personalities that you are attracted to.
- Love yourself: Maybe you are fixated on external love because you haven’t connected enough with what makes you so awesome. Self-love is a complex, but worthy pursuit. Only when you can love yourself can you fully love another person. You will know what makes a person healthy or toxic to your life and will save you from heartache. Only let people into your life that reflects the love you have towards yourself and the world. Prioritize spending time with yourself and your self-care routine. Whatever you are looking for in a lover or friend show that to yourself first. When you embody this self-love, you’ll attract others into your life that can reciprocates this respect and affection.
The alternatives proposed in the article, such as identifying desirable traits and self-love, are indeed practical advices. These strategies could lead to healthier relationships.
I agree. Understanding what you value in a person and focusing on self-love can really help in attracting the right kind of people into your life.
Yes, these methods encourage personal growth and self-awareness, which are key in building meaningful and balanced relationships.
The article presents a balanced perspective on the risks of manifesting a specific person into your life. It’s important to consider the potential for toxic relationships if we focus too much on individuals rather than the traits we value.
The article is a good reminder that knowing someone superficially doesn’t always reveal their true nature. It’s wise to approach relationships with caution and intentionality.
Focusing on ‘it’ instead of ‘them’ is an interesting concept. It shifts the focus from a person to the qualities we seek, which might indeed result in more harmonious relationships.
Agreed. It also helps in avoiding the disappointment that comes from fixating on a specific individual who may not be a good match for us.
That’s true. By concentrating on the characteristics we value, we might attract people who are more aligned with our own values and lifestyle.
Manifesting someone specific does seem problematic as it could violate their free will. Focusing on the qualities you desire in a person seems like a more pragmatic approach.